All through my twenties and a large part of my thirties I thought I had to learn how to think like those women who seemed so much better than me and strive every sinew in pursuit of perfection. It didn’t get me very far, and my thinking and energy was like butter spread over too much bread (to quote a Hobbit!). In exploring the the 10 components and practising with them on the course I have really begun to understand that this was not only not helpful, but counterproductive. What an absolute delight to discover that I need to focus on creating conditions that reflect that I matter.